How to Respond to Negative Words from My Dad?

There are a few things I’ve learned over the years from my relationship with my own step-dad and my relationship coaching guys who have had difficult relationships with their own dads.

  • The words you chew on internally are what you will become. You know the ones I’m talking about. The things your dad has said to you that you have never let go of. The things that hurt you. The things that you let label you. Esau, when he realized that his brother Jacob had tricked him for his father’s blessing cried out to his dad, "Have you but one blessing, my father? Bless me, even me also, O my father." And Esau lifted up his voice and wept.” (Gen.27:38 ESV). Esau believed that he wasn’t blessed, that he couldn’t be blessed because of what his father had said to him.
  • You can break the power of those words that have been spoken over you through forgiveness. So often we get stuck on a repeat cycle of “But why did he say that? Why did my boss do that? Why would my friend say that?” That repeat cycle just keeps spinning round and round. It never ends. You can break the power of those words through forgiveness. Sometimes it helps to write them down and go through and forgive the person who said them one by one.
  • We will find the healing we’re looking for when we connect to our Father in heaven. God said, “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.” (Jer. 29:11) When you fill yourself with the words that God said about you and replace those broken words that were spoken over you with the powerful words of hope that God has spoken over you, you will find the healing you need.

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Published on October 10, 2019.

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