How Do You Stay Centered as a Mom?

Staying centered as a mom—whether you’re a working mom, have a busy schedule, or just have really challenging kids—can take intentional living and thinking. Mary shares a few of the things she’s learned through her own journey of motherhood.

Know Who You Are as a Mom

We often place so much stress and pressure on ourselves; our expectation is that we will be more or do more as a parent. We need to remind ourselves that we are not defined by our children’s behavior, but by how God the Father sees us – chosen, called, and loved.

Children were never meant to be a validation of you as a person. Challenging children—and children with special needs—are often beautiful reminders that we need to look to the Lord for our worth and self-value, not to our children. This is true for everyone, whether they’ve experienced a moment where they were challenged by their child or not.

Your child’s behavior is not always a reflection of who you are as a person or how you’re doing as a parent.

Our worst days as a parent usually happen when we make our identity about how well our kids are performing. Overreactions on our part about our child’s behavior is often an indicator that we are placing our identity and value in their performance or behavior.

Remember Your Purpose as a Mom

Your job as a parent is not to worry about the outcome. Your job as a parent is to plant the good seeds into your kid’s hearts and bless them and love them the same way that the Father has blessed and loved you.

A good way to consider your purpose is to think back on all the things the Lord has done and is doing for you, and to do the same for your children. As God has been gracious to you, be gracious to your children. As God has forgiven you, forgive your children. As God has blessed you, bless your children.

God has called us all to be farmers of some sort, and to plant the good seeds of righteousness. The farmer’s job is to plant the seed, but it is the Lord’s job to bring the necessary sun and the rain to make it grow. In this way, the Lord is the one who brings the fruit.

It’s not up to you to produce the perfect child, or produce in your child the perfect behavior. Your job is simply to do for them what God has done for you. This mindset is the key to staying centered as a parent, and will set you free to do what God has called you to do (and leave behind all that extra baggage).


I said, ‘Plant the good seeds of righteousness,

and you will harvest a crop of love.

Plow up the hard ground of your hearts,

for now is the time to seek the Lord,

that he may come

and shower righteousness upon you.’


Hosea 10:12 NLT



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Published on January 18, 2018.

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